According to most communications professors; body language is the strongest form of nonverbal communication. Body language sends out numerous amounts of signals to those around you, however each individual's reaction will vary due to cultural background differences. However when it comes to my own body language I try to make my gestures as unique and clear as possible so other people can understand what I am trying to say without verbally saying it. For example, if I am waving my hand in a back-hand waving motion I am telling someone to either "go away" or I am saying "not interested". Another one of my gestures is how I bid farewell, I do so by giving a two-fingered salute facing away from the one I am parting from.
As for the "vibes" I give off, I usually give off a "don't bother me" type of vibe because I am not interested in most people within my community. This vibe of mine was also developed because of the way I grew up and how much my personality clashes with most others, which has prompted some to deem me "unapproachable" or "abrasive". However I do not let other people's thoughts about me change my perspective because they have no right to do so. There is only one me and I will not let any other person sway me from my path.
My facial expressions usually state what I type of mood I am in or what I am thinking about something. For example; if I am disgusted with something or someone I will either turn my head and not look that direction, or I will openly display a disgusted expression. This has also created friction between me and certain people because I am too "blatantly honest" and I also do not believe in hiding my thoughts or putting on a fake expression because that does not blend within my discipline.
My dress style, now this one is a kicker, is not what you would usually see a "Black guy" wear. Despite being 25% Japanese along with three other heritages people will either silently stereotype me or openly question my style. To be honest I say that they are just plain ignorant and need to see past their own noses, if they are capable of doing so that is. This was actually an issue I had to deal with frequently throughout my high school years and lead to numerous conflicts with my so-called "peers". However this is now just dust in the wind, it has came and it has gone away.
As for my mental attitude, I try to adopt a "neutral" type of attitude, not allowing my emotions to cloud my logical reasoning or judgment. Once again this has also been a main cause of friction between me and other people because I do not think like every other person nor do I desire to. I can also be very "snippy" if someone tries to aggravate me, because if you say something insulting to me I'll do it back and ten times harder. Why so sensitive? Call it sensitive if you want, but I call it "not taking 'you-know-what' from other people".
Linden, I think it is great that you do what you want to do. I also believe that we are all different and our uniqueness is what makes us our own individual person. If we were all the same you no how boring life would be. I think we all have the characteristic of leave me alone unless it is interesting gene. We as people are only interested in stuff that is fun and unique. But there are people who do go around and are just plain mean and full of criticism and when you say something to them they can't take it. I hate the people that do that, hypocrites.Being honest is a difficult thing to do but doing it a right way can be done. I try to be honest every way I can. What I do is I present the truth and tell them what the negative outcome would be if they kept doing it. Most of the time they do change their ways but it avoids argument and direct criticism. It avoids making you look like a bad person. I call it constructive criticism. I am use to it now because I use it everyday. If you want to avoid arguments and conflicts this seems to work for me.
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